However, two of my actual gay men friends both enjoy precisely the kind of goopy slash fic-ish stuff that is so often written by women one writes it himself, but has been loath to tell me what he's written (and I don't blame him I'm not sure I could tell my friends about any romantic pornography I'd been writing) and one is a huge OTT fan of Sarah Monette's extremely.er. Fantagraphics has just republished his memoir piece Bread And Wine: An Erotic Tale of New York' which I have never read but which seems to involve both sex and romance.Īs a side note, though, there's this trope going around in fandom that is 'real gay men don't read soft mushy fanfic stuff, it's all written by women for women which means it is bad both artistically and culturally not to mention sexually, etc'. He also wrote the most romantic story in the entire world, 'Time Considered As A Helix of Semi-Precious Stones', but it's what you might call subtle, also has a sad ending.
Samuel Delany's novels The Mad Man and Through The Valley Of The Nest of Spiders as well as his memoir Times Square Red, Times Square Blue are probably not precisely what you're looking for, but they have porn and romance and are written by a gay man.
